It was a rough weekend at our house.
The 2′s (early 3′s?) have arrived in full force. What I thought was a tantrum before this weekend, is no longer what I consider a tantrum. I now know differently.
While a big part of our toddler issues stem from sin and stubbornness and normal (I *think*?) two-year-old stuff, I think that part of it also lies in the fact that I work on the computer. A lot. Especially lately, with the eBook and Simply Devoted.
She knows that she doesn’t have my undivided attention.
Not surprisingly, I’ve had a really difficult time finishing up writing Undivided Mom. Perhaps because I’m still in the trenches of becoming that kind of mom myself? Still stumbling along? Probably more than I’d care to admit.
My daughter desperately needs me right now. And Jon and I desperately need to figure out some things as far as discipline and routines and expectations and Godly instruction. We need to win her heart and learn how to point her to Christ. What is age-appropriate? What can she understand? What does she need? Where is this stemming from? I’m reading books and asking questions, as I’ve been totally and completely humbled this week.
I keep finding that God is using parenting to break my pride.
Well, it’s working.
So this week, I’m committing to putting aside the computer and phone while Emily is awake. Maybe you already do that, and clearly you are a more awesome parent than I. This is going to be really hard for me. But I’m afraid we are at an important crossroads right now and if I let her continue down this path we will all regret it.
When she’s awake, my attention is on her. She can do laundry and dishes with me. We can get things done together. My gut feeling is that time with me is what she needs most of all. And not having the distraction of the internet as an option will help me to focus on her and see what she needs more clearly. I think. I hope.
In the meantime, I’m voraciously reading any parenting book I can get my hands on. I’d love to hear what your favorites are, and why. Comment below with your best recommendations, pretty please? You guys are often my favorite source of information!
Thanks for understanding the fact that I won’t be online as much this week. Not that you’ll notice if I don’t refresh my Facebook feed every five minutes. Not that I ever do that. Regularly…
Anyway, parenting books? Or blogs? Or articles? Any advice about serious toddler tantrums? I’d love it all!